By 2025, more than half the primary breadwinners in America will be women.Given this growing ascendancy, one might surmise that men have started to feel emasculated, put off by financially independent, strong women who make their own way because of the fear they're losing value as men.Some people opine that men are less attracted to a woman who is on an equal or higher level when it comes to matters of the pocketbook or education, and that a successful woman should dumb herself down to get a man.My time in the world of dating and relationships, both personally (as a former serial dater) and professionally (as a columnist, host and now a dating coach), has taught me that these conclusions, for the most part, are fallacies, the aforementioned girl-power refrain a line women repeat when they don't want to tell each other or themselves to look inward or at their dating behaviors or their choices in men.But are men really intimidated by strong, smart and successful women?
Most men don't care where a woman got her three degrees or that she's made partner at her law firm -- it's a nice bonus, and, understandably, a woman is proud of these achievements, but it's not what leads a man to be attracted to her. It could have nothing to do with her level of accomplishment (maybe she's a Ph. ) and more to do with that woman's easygoing nature and her ability to create a feeling of emotional safety and peace within a relationship. Joshua Pompey: I think you hit the nail on the head, Neely, in regards to accomplishments being "a nice bonus." Great accomplishments don't cause men to feel an attraction towards women.They will only have the potential to enhance that attraction if we already feel it. We strongly prefer to find partners who have more than high school degrees, have serious work ethics and have dreams of their own that they aspire to achieve.These qualities matter to us because we know on a fundamental level that we will connect more with women who are well rounded, have a high intelligence level and independently have goals of their own.In my opinion, all women should strive to achieve this.The problem arises when women make men as if they are not needed in the relationship.