A word of caution: running from your grief only delays the healing process.
It is impossible to simultaneously let go of one relationship and attach to another with any degree of success. By putting yourself under a microscope and looking at your responsibility in the collapse of your marriage, you can use divorce as a catalyst to reinvent and empower your SELF.
Grief is a wound that needs attention in order to heal.
“Have you done something that's an affirmation of yourself and your life -- made a new friend, taken up a new sport, gotten a haircut? “You open your heart to new relationships when you're resilient enough to endure the minuses of dating to get the pluses.” Your identity has nothing to do with your dating status.
The three entities must be simultaneously nurtured throughout the partnership. Make new friends, go to parties and spend time with groups.
Casual socializing gives you time to adjust to your new ME and explore the world of options that has opened up for you.
“Your marriage has died; you need to grieve that loss,” Barnett says.
“To move forward, I had to be whole emotionally, financially, mentally, and spiritually.