How are you supposed to progress the relationship if you never “touch-base” by actually speaking to one another? Or, am I just old fashioned (39) and not used to this new aspect of dating? Telling someone where you’re located in a crowded theater or bar. There’s no context, tone, voice, or facial expressions to modify your message. You’re encouraged to misspell, you’re discouraged from saying anything deep or meaningful.Writing flirty or dirty notes to be provocative and naughty. The next thing you know, you’re having a vicious argument that could have been easily avoided in person. Essentially, texting is emailing for the lazy, illiterate and mobile.If five minutes on the phone is too much work for him, it speaks for itself.As to how you redirect a lazy man to give you more effort, the trick is to do it with wit and charm.” Try to redirect his energy in a positive way that encourages him to keep working for you.As long as he’s working for you, you’re still in control.You might say something that will only make the situation worse, and even if you don’t mean any harm, there’s always that chance for your text messages to be misconstrued.[Read: 10 ways to handle dating someone with anger issues] #4 Be short and sweet. This is especially true in the realm of texting and dating, since the recipient can’t see you as you say *type* those words. Have you ever had someone send you the same text multiple times back-to-back? The more texts you send at a time, the more desperate and needier you come across.
Before hitting the “send” button, go over your message at least once.
What you don’t want to do is sound like a stick-in-the-mud, my-way-or-the-highway woman.
But you can refuse to play his game and still make him feel attractive, which will keep him chasing you through whatever medium you choose. Now now, don’t hate on men – I’m a single guy who is dating, and women I meet text me all the time. It drove me crazy for some of the reasons you talked about – a 5 minute phone call is so much nicer, more respectful, more intimate. It’s how Gen-Y communicates (I’m older than Gen-Y.) I finally decided to stop resisting it, and it doesn’t bother me anymore.
Avoid lengthy messages that give you more opportunities to be misunderstood. Though you might feel that you were ignored or left hanging without a response, fight the urge to resend the message and just get your mind off of it.
[Read: How to love someone without smothering them] #6 One word: Spellcheck.